Home Feamil Single mother, 34, reveals she's in a polyamorous relationship with her married...

Single mother, 34, reveals she's in a polyamorous relationship with her married lover and his WIFE


A single mother who went on a date with a married man claiming to be separated has revealed how she fell for him – and his wife.

Monica Sandoval, 34, has now been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert, 35, both from New York, and Giselle Gomez, 30, for five years, and the threesome live happily together with their five kids – Jayvon, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four – in Connecticut. leon

The trio take it in turns to sleep with each other and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose to sleep wherever he wants. And they claim the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness.

‘Everyone asks about sex and yes we have sex a lot but we don’t keep count,’ said Monica, in her first exclusive interview. ‘We have threesomes and individual sex and Giselle and I have our own rooms and Gilbert sleeps where he wants.

Monica Sandoval, 34, who went on a date with married Gilbert Gomez, 35, from New York, who claimed to be separated, has revealed how she fell for him - and his wife Giselle Gomez, 30. Pictured, Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (left) and lover Monica (right)

Monica Sandoval, 34, who went on a date with married Gilbert Gomez, 35, from New York, who claimed to be separated, has revealed how she fell for him – and his wife Giselle Gomez, 30. Pictured, Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (left) and lover Monica (right)

Monica has been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert and Giselle Gomez for five years and the threesome live happily together with their five kids. Pictured, Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Monica has been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert and Giselle Gomez for five years and the threesome live happily together with their five kids. Pictured, Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids – Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob 12, Max, six and Leon, four

‘Gilbert and Giselle have their time together and I have my time with him and then we have our nights together – that’s how it works.

‘Of course, guys will reckon he is the luckiest man in the world having two females, but it takes a lot of time, patience, dedication and commitment to be in a relationship like this. It’s not perfect but we are soulmates.’

Monica had been working shifts in Dunkin’ Donuts in Manhattan, New York, to help provide for her daughter, Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site.

He told her that he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on their first date.

The trio take it in turns to sleep with each other and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose to sleep wherever he wants. Pictured, Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The trio take it in turns to sleep with each other and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose to sleep wherever he wants. Pictured, Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The trio claim the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica

The trio claim the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica

Monica instantly fell for the property manager but a month later, he admitted he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children, including a newborn baby. 

She was shocked, but was already in love with Gilbert, and eventually, in January 2015, he introduced Monica to his hair stylist wife, Giselle who had accepted that her husband was seeing someone new.

Later that month Gilbert and Giselle’s youngest, Max, was diagnosed with stage three liver cancer – hepatoblastoma – aged just five months.

Monica helped Giselle care for the baby while he was undergoing chemotherapy – but then dropped the bombshell news that she was pregnant with Gilbert’s baby.

‘I didn’t know how to tell Giselle at first, and she was very hurt,’ she said. ‘She was going through an especially hard time, but eventually she accepted it.’

Luckily Max recovered and is now cancer-free, and Giselle was there to welcome baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labour in March 2016.

Monica had been working shifts in Dunkin' Donuts in Manhattan, New York, to help provide for her daughter, Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site. Pictured, Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Monica had been working shifts in Dunkin’ Donuts in Manhattan, New York, to help provide for her daughter, Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site. Pictured, Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Gilbert told Monica he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on their first date. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert told Monica he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on their first date. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert and Giselle's youngest, Max (pictured), was diagnosed with stage three liver cancer - hepatoblastoma - aged just five months

Gilbert and Giselle’s youngest, Max (pictured), was diagnosed with stage three liver cancer – hepatoblastoma – aged just five months

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six, and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids – Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six, and Leon, four

Incredibly, the two women eventually became romantically involved too, and the trio formed a polyamorous relationship, which she says is very fulfilling.

‘Giselle and I were just friends at first, nothing more than that, but I began to feel attracted to her, and there were lots of emotions going on,’ explained Monica. ‘We started doing sexual things together. It was my first time, but it was exciting.’

However, Monica’s family, who she was living with, disapproved and kicked her out. The married couple asked her to move in with them.

Gilbert and his two loyal lovers eventually moved to Connecticut with their five children in December 2016 to start a new life together.

Monica added: ‘If someone had told me when I was a single mother that I’d end up in a poly relationship with this super family honestly I would have asked what polyamory is.

Monica instantly fell for Gilbert but a month later he admitted he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children and newborn baby. Pictured, Giselle and lover Monica

Monica instantly fell for Gilbert but a month later he admitted he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children and newborn baby. Pictured, Giselle and lover Monica

The trio moved to Connecticut with their five children - Jayvon, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four, in December 2016 to start a new life together (pictured)

The trio moved to Connecticut with their five children – Jayvon, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four, in December 2016 to start a new life together (pictured)

Monica helped Giselle care for the baby while Max was undergoing chemotherapy - but then dropped the bombshell news that she was pregnant with Gilbert's baby. Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica with her son Leon, now four

Monica helped Giselle care for the baby while Max was undergoing chemotherapy – but then dropped the bombshell news that she was pregnant with Gilbert’s baby. Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica with her son Leon, now four

Monica's family, who she was living with, disapproved and kicked her out. Pictured, Gilbert and Monica

Monica’s family, who she was living with, disapproved and kicked her out. Pictured, Gilbert and Monica

‘I would have seriously doubted that would be me. I was taught by my mother that it is very sinful to be with the same sex or to have multiple partners.

‘But now I couldn’t be happier and we all love each other so much. We want other people to know that you are not weird and it’s OK to be in a poly relationship.

‘Gilbert and Giselle are now my soulmates and I feel so loved, cared for and supported.’

Gilbert and Giselle have been together 16 years and married for 12. At first their marriage was normal but after two years that changed when Giselle revealed she was attracted to women. 

‘I told Gilbert that I had an interest in females too – something I had never told anybody,’ explained Giselle. ‘Ever since then our relationship became open and it has been great.

‘We date other people and we are just totally up front about it. He told me about Monica right away and I met her a month after they began dating. We got on really well.

‘But then my heart sank when I was told my youngest child Max had cancer. It was such a terrible shock.

The two women have become romantically involved too. Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The two women have become romantically involved too. Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Giselle revealed she was attracted to women two years into her marriage with Gilbert. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica Sandoval

Giselle revealed she was attracted to women two years into her marriage with Gilbert. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and his girlfriend, but knew it would never have happened if he hadn't lied to Monica. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle (middle) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and his girlfriend, but knew it would never have happened if he hadn’t lied to Monica. Pictured, Gilbert with his wife Giselle (middle) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

‘I had only met Monica once but she came to the emergency room where I was and she sat with me as Max went through his chemotherapy sessions.

‘I knew she was building a relationship with Gilbert and it was hard for me because I was trying to focus on my sick son. But she was so supportive from the beginning and now she is part of our family.’

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and his girlfriend, but knew it would never have happened if he hadn’t lied to Monica. 

‘If I’d have told Monica from the beginning I was married she wouldn’t have given me the opportunity to date her,’ said Gilbert. ‘I wanted her to meet the person I am and to gain her trust so she would feel comfortable meeting Giselle.

‘When you say hey I’m in a poly relationship that is overwhelming for some people. Now we are all one big happy family.’

Monica said most people just want to know about their sex lives, but she insisted they are like most other married couples – except there are three of them.

‘We all cook together and have family time. We sit around the table and talk about our day and just cherish each other,’ she said.

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their kids – Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle have been together 16 years and married for 12. Pictured, together

Gilbert and Giselle have been together 16 years and married for 12. Pictured, together

Monica (left) says the trio have threesomes and individual sex and she and Giselle (right) have their own rooms, while Gilbert (centre) sleeps where he wants

Monica (left) says the trio have threesomes and individual sex and she and Giselle (right) have their own rooms, while Gilbert (centre) sleeps where he wants

‘We do have everyday disagreements like any normal family but we are always there for each other.

‘We want to set our children an example that there is no rule that limits you to love one person when there is so much love to give.

‘There was a funny incident at a parent teacher conference for Anna and Jacob and the teacher asked Giselle and I who was the mother.

‘I explained how when it comes to Anna I am mom and Giselle is mom number two and it’s the same with Jacob. Instantly there was a very confused stare, but in general people are accepting of us.

‘We don’t want our children to feel like they have to live in a fear-based culture surrounding relationships like when we grew up. Society is no longer defined by marriage or being in a monogamous relationship.

‘We want the world to know love has no limits. Love is love and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.’

Monica says the polyamorous relationship is 'not perfect' but they're 'soulmates.' Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Monica says the polyamorous relationship is ‘not perfect’ but they’re ‘soulmates.’ Pictured, Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Giselle was there to welcome baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labour in March 2016. Pictured, Giselle and lover Monica

Giselle was there to welcome baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labour in March 2016. Pictured, Giselle and lover Monica

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

Must Read

DeMar DeRozan came 'face-to-face' with Kylie Jenner's alleged stalker and 'chased' him away

Kylie Jenner's alleged stalker came 'face-to-face' with NBA player DeMar DeRozan...

Lily Allen celebrates one month of being smoke-free

Lily Allen celebrates one month of being smoke-free as she shares...

Tammy Abraham reveals he devilishly attempts to 'steal some ideas' from team-mate Olivier Giroud

Tammy Abraham reveals he devilishly attempts to 'steal some ideas' from...

Horror as two men in their 30s drown and a boy, 9, is pulled from the water at Noosa

Horror as two men in their 30s drown and a boy,...

Shutdown backlash: San Diego mayor slams Governor Newsom's statewide COVID -19 lockdown

California Governor Gavin Newsom’s latest coronavirus lockdown restrictions are getting a strong push back from mayors, lawmakers, and sheriffs who say banning outdoor...