DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a gay man and I think I’m in love but my guy blows hot and cold and it’s totally stressing me out.
We first met on Tinder but he said that he had a girlfriend and I accepted that. So we just had a chat and arranged to meet up for a beer by the Thames.
We ended up watching the boats in the dark while we kissed and held hands.
I felt really happy but he then sent a text saying, “Let’s just be friends.”
We swapped a few texts then we met up again and he told me he loved me and I said the same. Then he rocked me by saying, “I think we should call it a day” – then he started to text me again.
He’s ignoring me now and I feel so confused. I like him a lot but he keeps backing off.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as though there is possibly a bond there but you stand to get hurt as this guy clearly isn’t ready to tell the world – or maybe himself — that he’s bisexual or gay.
Call it a day, as he says, and block him so he can’t keep pulling your strings – and cheating on his girlfriend, of course. Free yourself emotionally to find someone who’s ready to care for you openly.
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