DEAR DEIDRE: I DISCOVERED my girlfriend getting sexual with another guy. I don’t know what to do.
We were at the pub together for a friend’s 30th when I decided I’d had enough and went home. We’d been drinking since lunchtime. She said she’d be along soon but still wasn’t home two hours later.
I went back to the pub to check and she was kissing a man. She was sitting on his lap and pushing herself against him in an obviously sexual manner. I was horrified. We have lived together for three years. We are both 27 and have talked about starting a family.
I went over and she asked me to buy a round. We had a row and I walked out. She fell in through the door a couple of hours later.
The next morning she blamed it on the alcohol, though she admitted to having spent the night with this man before we met.
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DEIDRE SAYS: How has your relationship been apart from that night?
If you love her, tell her you will not accept that behaviour again, but want the two of you to work together to strengthen your relationship so she won’t even be tempted.
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