Ferne McCann has vowed to remain celibate until she meets The One – and admits: ‘The longer I don’t have sex, the longer I don’t need it.’
The reality star, who first made the revelation on her show First Time Mum, told MailOnline her ‘outlook on sex changed when she hit 30’ and she doesn’t want her next romance to be ‘just a fling.’
In an exclusive interview, Ferne revealed she could remain sexless for months but she isn’t bothered and is ‘overjoyed at being single.’
‘I don’t need it’: Ferne McCann has vowed to remain celibate until she meets The One – and admits: ‘The longer I don’t have sex, the longer I don’t need it’
Ferne, who’s a mum to daughter Sunday, two, said: ‘I feel my whole outlook on sex has definitely changed as I’ve got older and having lockdown and that time on my own really started to bring up different questions in my head.
‘The longer I don’t have it, the longer I don’t need it. If I’m going to be with someone now, I don’t want it to just be a fling.
‘I want it to be important and be meaningful. Could I do it? Yes. But it’s like a diet; once you tell yourself don’t eat chocolate, all you can think about is chocolate!’
The former TOWIE star confirmed her split from New York-based boyfriend Albie Gibbs in May, after the couple failed to make their transatlantic relationship work during lockdown.
‘I want it to be meaningful’: The reality star told MailOnline her ‘outlook on sex changed when she hit 30’ and she doesn’t want her next romance to be ‘just a fling’
‘I’m cool with it’: Ferne, who’s a mum to two-year-old daughter Sunday, said she’s unfazed by being back on the dating scene and is ‘overjoyed’ at her single status
Aside from a momentary panic at turning 30 as a single woman, Ferne is unfazed by being back on the dating scene.
She said: ‘I’m cool with it. In fact, I am overjoyed at being single.
‘I have everything I need in the most humbling way. I am so grateful, especially in the current situation. I have a healthy daughter, a beautiful house, gorgeous friends and family, I am so, so grateful.’
Ferne, who returns to ITVBe on Thursday with the sixth series of her show First Time Mum, revealed she was ‘shocked’ after one potential suitor on celebrity dating app Raya inadvertently offended her by commenting on her age.
‘You trying to make out that I’m an old lady?’: Ferne revealed she was ‘shocked’ after one potential suitor on dating app Raya inadvertently offended her by commenting on her age
She explained: ‘I’m on that dating app called Raya and someone the other day, I connected with some really fit guy and he said to me “oh my God you’re 30, I can’t believe it.” And I was like “what?” I was shocked.
‘I started to dissect it. This is just not something you say to a 30-year-old. He said “Ferne, no chance you’re 30” with the inspector emoji. I didn’t respond. I thought, “no, you’ve blown it there.”
‘He put “no I mean good looking, I hope I look half as good as you.” I thought, “are you trying to make out that I’m an old lady?” I don’t know if this is my insecurities.
‘The poor guy was trying to be friendly but for a female that is single at 30 – it’s not what you want to hear.’
Ex-boyfriend: The former TOWIE star confirmed her split from Albie Gibbs in May, after the couple failed to make it work in lockdown and he confessed to not liking the limelight
Ferne split from Sunday’s father Arthur Collins, who is currently serving a 20-year prison sentence for GBH and ABH, during her pregnancy.
She remained single for more than two years until meeting Albie, who admitted the limelight wasn’t for him after briefly featuring on her show.
Ferne said turning the milestone age of 30 was a ‘real mixed bag of emotions’ and she briefly felt as though she hadn’t achieved anything – despite becoming a mum and rising to fame on TOWIE throughout her 20s.
She said: ‘Turning 30… I had that whole moment where I’m still single… as a female, when you’re single at 30 you really start to question yourself and you think “am I ever going to find anyone? Am I going to be single forever?” This isn’t what I planned.
‘This isn’t what I planned’: Ferne said it was a ‘real mixed bag of emotions’ turning 30 in August but she’s settled again now following a momentary panic at being single
‘It was a real mixed bag of emotions. Growing up in your 20s you’re frivolous and exploring but when you hit 30 you feel as though you haven’t achieved anything you wanted to. But that was only blip, now I’m really happy.’
During lockdown, Ferne learned to value herself after working on her fitness, healthy eating and meditation as a way of coping with the events of this year.
She said: ‘I’ve done lots of self-work in lockdown and really got into my meditating, I love crystal healing and things like that.
‘I like to do as much as that as I possibly can to keep me feeling positive and not stressing about what’s going on in the world.’
Ferne McCann: First Time Mum returns Thursday at 9pm on ITVBe
Focus: Ferne, who returns to ITVBe on Thursday with the new series of First Time Mum, learned to value herself after working on her fitness, healthy eating and meditation during lockdown