When you’re still young enough to believe in fairytales, love seems like such a simple thing. You meet someone, you fall for each other, and then you waltz off into the future together to live happily ever after in eternal bliss. Real love, on the other hand, is super complicated.
Sometimes it’s more painful than blissful, and in most instances, it doesn’t last. Falling out of love is honestly just as easy (and confusing) as falling into it can be. But figuring out when to stick it out and when to cut and run isn’t easy at all. Here’s a look at how to tell when it’s actually worth sticking around and trying to reignite that lost spark.
Why People Fall Out of Love
When you’re first falling madly in love with a charming new sugardaddy, it can feel every bit as intense as the first time you ever fell in love. Sometimes he’s all you can think about, and every little detail about him – including his little quirks and flaws – just seems so perfect.
This obsessive phase of a new relationship is what people tend to picture when they think of love, but it’s really just infatuation. If you’re lucky, it will evolve into love eventually, and if you’re even luckier, it might last a while. But people fall out of love all the time for reasons like the following.
- Once they’re no longer infatuated, they eventually realize they’re not that compatible after all.
- Something happens to irrevocably destroy one partner’s trust in the other – infidelity, dishonesty, etc.
- They’re unable to accept one another for the flawed individuals that they are.
- The chemistry in the relationship fizzles out due to neglect, changing life circumstances, etc.
How to Know When You’ve Fallen Out of Love
Love within committed relationships isn’t the type of thing that’s either there or it isn’t. Some days, a sugar baby might feel as blissfully in love with her sugardaddy as ever. But other days, she might feel a lot more neutral or even lean toward dislike if she’s been fighting with her daddy. Then a day will come when love is back again, stronger than ever.
When you’ve genuinely fallen out of love with someone, that uncomfortable feeling of disillusionment doesn’t go away. It persists, leaving a sugar baby to wonder where on earth that wonderful feeling went. Here are some signs that’s what’s happening.
The intimacy is missing in action
Even the spiciest couples go through occasional dry spells due to age, busy schedules, health issues, and so many other things. But a lasting lack of desire even to kiss or cuddle with someone isn’t a great sign.
The future is a question mark
One sure sign you’re falling out of love with your sugardaddy is that you no longer see him as part of the picture when you think about your ideal future. It means you’re no longer factoring him (or your connection) into your plans, even hypothetically.
You’re not excited to see him
Absence usually has a way of making the heart grow fonder, even if a sugar baby and sugardaddy have had a lot of time to get used to one another. But if you don’t miss your daddy when he’s gone or – worse – actually feel a sense of relief when you’re apart, you’re likely falling out of love.
Other people are turning your head
Although it’s totally natural to notice good-looking people and even to entertain the occasional naughty fantasy about them, not being able to keep other people out of your head at all can be a sign that your partner just isn’t exciting you anymore.
Figuring Out What to Do
If you’ve fallen out of love with your sugardaddy, or are thinking maybe it’s time to break up with your sugar baby, you likely already know it. It’s just something you know in your heart, usually long before you’re willing to admit it out loud. But once you’re sure, you have a couple of choices.
Talking things out with your sugardaddy is an excellent place to start. Be open and honest about how you’ve been feeling, ask him to share his feelings as well, and be willing to listen. Sometimes you can determine together whether or not you’d like to work together to salvage your relationship or would rather just move on.
If you’d like to work on things, consider spending some time apart to get some perspective. Talking to a relationship counselor can also help you two find your way back to one another. But there’s also no shame in deciding it’s time to close the book and move on.
Not all relationships are meant to last forever, but that doesn’t mean they weren’t special and important, regardless. It’s all part of the journey when it comes to love and connection.
